QUOTE FROM THE CHAPTER:
“It’s simply: instinctual and mental before it is physical.”

CHAPTER EXCERPT:
"…the way it is presented to you). So, with that being said, you have to learn man and woman’s sexual nature first, and then when you connect with [man or woman] you are able to “nurture” them properly because you have already studied and know how to cater to that man or woman’s true nature (before they bring to you, all the worldly things that are, and have become).

That is the mental and instinctive way to behind knowing what “good sex” or “good-oral-sex” to a man or a woman. It’s not as physical as we think it is. We ignore the instinctual and mental, but when you cater to the mental and instinctual-first, you #WIN.

In short: it’s a kind of “pre-meditation.” You already know how to please them because you already know how to please their (true) nature. It’s like a woman can come to you hard and tough as nails-from the things that she has experienced in the world, yet that is not her true nature.
So, when you take her to bed, you do not make love to her “hard and tough as nails self,” you take her to bed and make love to her true nature and as well, (outside of the bedroom), in spite of her “hard and tough as nails self” you treat her like her true “nature.” You can only know how to do those things if you have studied her true nature, before she even came to you…

In our sexual society and culture today, many people are dealing with and “making love” to facades of people; renditions of them rather than catering to that man or that woman’s true nature (be it in the bedroom or outside of it).

Men and women are so much alike, yet we are so very different (in terms of nature-nurture).

With regard to sex, a man’s nature is responsive to servitude and “giving”
Their sexual nature is to be “taken in.”
Women are responsive to gratitude and to be “given to”
Their sexual nature is to be “taken.”

So when in an act of something as instinctive as sex, that has to be your approach-with that man or that woman (regardless their persona when they come to you).

No matter how “broke” a man may be mentally, emotionally or financially, his nature responds to being catered to a certain kind of way (in or outside of the bedroom). And if you cannot meet that, then you really have not met him-you are dealing with some caricature him.

With regard to sex, as mentioned earlier, good sex it is not just a physical experience. It is mental and instinctual, first. You have to “think” your sex through without delivering it mechanically.
After you have done the “thinking” as elaborated at the beginning of this chapter tip, you then attach the person’s nature and then their person to the sex.

That is when the physical comes in.
When you tailor your sexual style to that person’s [male or female nature first] then with their sexual style and what nurtures them-then good sex and good oral-sex happens.

I won’t belabor the obvious any longer.
“Technique” does indeed play a part in “good-sex” and “good oral-sex” as well (which I thoroughly teach and elaborate on in chapter Tips 3, 4 and 5), but just like the point of this chapter tip: you have to start from the bottom; the rooter to the tooter, to get to the nature of a thing before it blossoms.
Then you’ll get the ripe (and right) fruit of that thing.

With that being said, turn the page, let’s eat:"

(END EXCERPT SAMPLE FOR "WHAT GOOD SEX and GOOD ORAL-SEX REALLY IS”)