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~THAT 21ST CENTURY LOVIN’~

"That good, new-fashioned twenty-first century lovin’: internet flirting, chatting/net-sex and text-sex.

If I have to admit so myself-it’s extremely hot, alluring, mysterious, and sexy. It has just that hint of unexplainable mystery about it that even I can’t resist having a taste of, from time to time.
I grow and evolve with the change in times, unchain my wireless heart if you can. I’m just a 21st century kind of girl: A Girl in the World and the World in a Girl, and I plead the 5th.
We are living in a stage of the information-age where now, most of how we socialize and take care of business is online or by way of our hi-tech phones.

Our cell phones aren’t even built for talking anymore-have you noticed that?
We’re almost annoyed to talk on our cell phones nowadays.
They’re just not ergonomically friendly to us the way they once were.
We can’t even hold them the way we used to and we don’t even converse and turn our cell phones much anymore, because they’ve lost all their curves.

Our cell phones seem to be more compatible with our fingers than our ears. It’s like our fingers are having a love-affair with our phone’s qwerty keys and our computer’s keyboard; boo’ing and woo’ing one another back and forth behind pixilated words and images.

Cyber space is this mysterious world we have become accustomed to, and made ourselves comfortable with. The ambiance and anonymity of sitting behind pixels with nothing but what we pick and choose to reveal of ourselves, is a kind of power afforded all of us on a leveled playing field (so we think). But the “power” actually lies behind the energy-itself.
Our pixels and words create a spirit of some kind: a kinetic or cryptic energy of sorts.

This “power” is the literal unspoken.

What we literally have not heard.

What we literally have not seen.

Our perception (for most), intuition (for some) and “sixth sense” (for others) are getting a massive workout-night and day.

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PHONE SEX
Phone-sex is so underestimated and often times the butt of many jokes in conversation. But don’t underestimate the power of phone-sex. It is the ultimate safe-sex tool and could save your heart, your emotions and your time.
Phone-sex (like the internet and all its emotional flirting and sub-flirting affairs) still allows your prospective partner the choice not to have to get all dolled or suited up for you, if they just don’t feel like being all that impressive for the moment.

It’s an awesome, occasional technique to use with our lovers when we are distant from one another and we’ve already been sexually intimate, however-essential when courting or dating someone who we may become sexually intimate with, at some point.

In courting someone, phone-sex is not a “promissory note.” Treat it like a liaison between you and your prospective partner. Let it be the bridge over

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NET-SEX/CHATTING

"Chatting can be alluring, fun, sexy, and sensual because you are behind pixels on a screen and your partner (prospective or mysterious) is behind another.

It’s a little less “personal” than phone sex because you don’t have to deal with the vulnerability of allowing that other person to hear your voice respond or initiate.

Through net sex/chatting, your partner has to read every line that you type in order to sense your arousal- by way of the words that you type.

In comparison to phone sex, this technique would allow you to gather the same information that you need to know about your prospective partner, however you are most likely to get more of the prospective partners “truth” via chatting, because they do not have the worry of your voice on the phone responding to (or not responding to) whatever it is that they are typing.
I would choose this option over phone sex (initially), because it is not so evasive and “in-your-face” or “in-your-ear.” It gives you or your prospective partner time to work each other slowly.

If this option is available to you, I would suggest it (first) before phone-sex. It still affords you the anonymity that you may need, while still assisting you in gathering whatever intimate information you need from the prospective partner to make a decision (or not) to go further; while at the same time, enables you to let your inhibitions run free.

Being able to hide behind pixels to communicate (whether about sex or simply getting to know another person), can be tricky. Because while at the same time a person is able to hide behind the pixels and allow their inhibitions to run free, they could also hide behind it and lie, fabricate or exaggerate about things up to and including what they can, will and won’t do. The best way you can deal with that is to know that people lie about the things they wish were true. How you wish to handle that would have to totally be up to you, and your individual situation.

That is where phone sex returns to steal the torch back from this net/chat sex tip.

Not to say that the same can’t be true for phone sex, but you are more apt to get the truth about what a person can, will and won’t do when they are able to hear your voice and gauge your responses to whatever they say-versus sitting there in the quiet and reading your replies on a screen.

That is the reason why so much miscommunication happens on these forums and such, because you cannot see or hear whatever it is you are trying to express in words out into the cyber sphere-in mere quiet. All feeling of emotions like: empathy, sincerity, etc. are not as easily communicated in words by all people. By the same token all emotions aren’t received and understood by all people as well. In the cyber sphere, if whatever you say isn’t accompanied by exclamation points or caps, for some peoples eyes on the receiving end of the pixels; you nearly have to be a poet in order to express whatever it is you are trying to say or convey.

So, in trying to get to know one another: sexually, intimately or otherwise, it would be a good idea to begin net sex/chatting. But eventually, it should be followed by stepping it up to the phone, even if not for phone sex; by phone-nonetheless.

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TEXT SEX/SEXTING
An awesome tool for couples who have surpassed that “getting to know you” stage, and wish to use it for those spontaneous moments in the day when one, or the other person feels the urge; sexting (otherwise) is the bottom of the barrel of recommended options for “distant” intimate moments.

That is because it is far more impersonal than net sex and chatting, a far cry from the intimacy of actual phone sex, and although the sexting method can be done while on the move, for that reason, I would not recommend it. 21st century methods of connecting to the prospective (lover, partner or significant other) are only as useful as it allows you an immobile kind of privacy, and in creating anything intimate-ambiance is key.

Although connecting with one another while on the run is possible, with regard to intimacy-this method fails because intimacy involves commandeering and isolating the senses. That cannot be done while mobile and moving about. The (personal) attention required is

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