"…another by two people breathing hard and/or moaning and shouting out from pleasure, pain, anticipation or all three.

As spiritual divination would have it: any time two human beings copulate for sexual intercourse, it is considered a spiritual act-regardless their emotional or mental attachment or commitment to one another, or not.

However, with regard to “intimate-sex” (by premise and definition of this book), consider the following:

If you and your partner ARE NOT emotionally attached
• A. You are not involved in the intimate-spiritual act of sex. Therefore in good, aggressive fucking/sex; you two have to fully utilize the mental with the physical fact that you are merely pounding two bodies together as a means to an end.

• B. In this sexual situation (where you and your partner are simply fucking, and there is no mental or emotional attachment to one another) regardless if you are: in a sixty-nine position, a chair riding position, doggy-style, cat-style, on the floor in the corner, side-by-side, feminine on-top/rear-end facing partner, double-chair ride, edge of the bed, standing or missionary position…the (unspoken) object of the act is for the less aggressive person to enjoy (and seek to be) treated like a slut during sex, and for the most-aggressive person to treat them as such.

That is the mental + physical element of good aggressive sex/fucking (between two people who are not mentally and emotionally attached).

If you and your partner ARE emotionally attached:
• A. You two are involved in the intimate-spiritual act of sex. Therefore in good, aggressive fucking/sex; you two have to fully utilize the mental and emotional with the physical fact that you [still are] pounding two bodies together as a means to an end. That’s just what “fucking” is about-regardless your commitment or emotional attachment.

• B. For the maximum mental and emotional experience of a good fuck, antagonizing plays with the mind and emotions. During aggressive sex, this can be explosive (for the both of you). An example of such a thing is typically for the least aggressive partner to share secrets and “ghosts” of (a) lover/s past-where that other lover may have done something sexually, exceptionally well that the two of you never shared (in pillow talk conversation or ever), or perhaps you can bring up some redeeming sexual quality about another lover.
Human beings are like animals with regard to aggression. Animals use it to survive. Humans use it for fight or flight. While fucking, you are already in a hard-breathing almost animalistic state of sexual aggression, so, talk of anything to play on the mind and emotion of the most aggressive partner will send them into sexual fight or flight.
However, if your lover is far too sensitive for that kind of “play,” then your other option is to somehow make them feel, not so much as “inadequate” about the fuck that they are giving you, but to force your aggressive lover to work harder at executing (whatever sexual position you are involved in at that moment) a little better or a little harder-so as to give them the impression that they are not pleasing you. This too, sends them into a sexual fight or flight mode.

• C. As well, in a sexual situation where you and your partner are emotionally attached, the object of the act is for the less aggressive party to enjoy (and seek to be) treated like a slut during sex, and for the most-aggressive party to treat them as such. However, it turns it up for the both of you if you express it to one another during the act (regardless the sexual position the two of you are fucking in).

That is the mental + emotional + physical element of good aggressive sex/fucking ( between two people who are mentally and emotionally attached).

So, in addition the swift, pounding and selfish thrusts of trying to out-fuck one another and obtain that means to that “end,” those are the ways you are supposed to “fuck” and have aggressive sex-if you want to do it right.

In rough/aggressive sex, it’s not just about what you do or how you’re doing it. It’s also about what you do behind whatever it is that you are doing.

It’s physical (sure).

But more than that: it’s MENTAL-by all means…"

(END EXCERPT SAMPLE FOR “AGGRESSIVE SEX: WHY and HOW-TO”)

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