TIP 5____________________________________

~INTIMATE SEX and POSITIONS~

Intimate sex and positions are like any other sex-position that you’ve probably been in before, however the receipt and delivery are different. In addition to that, some of what is being done in these positions do require courage and a slight release of our inhibitions (along with a partner who is willing to accept and enjoy the same).

Keep in mind that the concept of intimate sex is “consideration.” Consideration for your lover and the intimate moment itself; getting to know their physical responses to the things you are doing to (and with them).

In order to gauge what that is, it requires that you “use your head” while having intimate sex. Take time to slow down the sexual act in order to really absorb your lover and allow them to absorb you, too.

Consider your intimate sexual positions as being more than physical, but rather: spiritual and mental, attached and steady. Not the kind of sex as if the two of you are on a timer; bodies pounding one another like you are trying to beat the other in obtaining that orgasm first.
All that is fine and good, for “fucking” and aggressive sex, but in the act of having intimate sex and in various positions; consider you human “dominion” over animals, for example:
Animals “fuck.”
They do not take the time to stretch their mates out and love them from head to toe or take the time to create a sensual experience.
They mate, and they thrust, and they fuck. That is all.
They do not have the time to tailor their mating to the mate that they are with because they are animals-that’s their nature, not ours.
We do have the capacity to do so but often times we just don’t. Not necessarily because we don’t want to, but because we tend to do things the way, and with the pace that they have always been done.
We are creatures of habit.

That is what this iipter tip is all about-nothing complicated and fancy; just the kind of sexual intimacy that requires a little bit of patience and pace; “tailoring” our lovemaking to the lover we are with by slowing it down and taking full advantage of the moment. By giving and being in receipt of the full effect of the sexual act and position itself (while in whatever position it may be) taking our time to show and slow our go.

Read on, so you can see just what I mean:

Sixty-Nine
The Sixty-Nine (69)-also referred to as the “twisted sixes,” is an oral-sex position in which two people are performing oral-sex on one another simultaneously. Typically, the person with more body mass is on the bottom and the lesser is on top.

Couples also lie sideways to perform this sexual act (simultaneously) as well.
With regard to intimacy, this oral-sex position is least favorable (hence, why I did not list it in either of the “Oral-Sex for Him” or the “Oral-Sex For Her” chapter tips 3 and 4).

Good oral-sex has a premise: to please your partner and to give them your complete and undivided attention. The conclusion: climax.

You cannot give your partner your complete and utter undivided attention if you are being pleasured while at the same time-you are trying to give your partner pleasure. Somewhere, and at sometime in between this six-and this nine; someone is going to get preoccupied with their pleasure, or be so preoccupied with giving pleasure, that they are not in relaxed enough state to receive the pleasure they are being given.

This position is perfect for two people who are just “having sex,” and have no interest or knowledge about the kind of true sexual intimacy (that I am teaching throughout this book). But for anyone who knows about the fine art of sexual intimacy; they know that the best oral-sex you can give to a lover starts first with giving him or her your complete attention-uninterrupted-from start to finish.

The sixty-nine sexual position, has nothing to do with true intimacy and the true willingness to thoroughly please your lover. A lover who is in-tuned with true intimacy and interested in giving their partner the full experience of oral-sex, would put their face right in their lovers crouch and get the job done (no matter how long it took), without their lover being bothered with having to touch in the interim and especially-simultaneously.

Chair ride
It will forever be sexy and an intimate move to climb on top of your lover and straddle them before intercourse: fully-clothed, clothed just enough for your lover to have access to your crouch, and especially nude. The intimacy involved in this position comes from the fact that (unclothed or clothed) you and your lover are “public display of affection inappropriate,” and the only thing between the both of you is your crouches. You being straddled atop your lover in this way will give them the freedom (and by you being in this position): the permission-to play with your body in a tightly closed area of exposure. The close proximity between the two of you is almost as if you are secretly at play. It’s sexy. It’s private.

Intercourse in this position is always sexy because of the position itself, but it’s even sexier to expose your entire spiritual center to your lover in between the moments that you are straddled and riding during intercourse. Ask your lover to tell you things about you exposing yourself to them while the two of you intertwine in this moment. It turns up the fire and makes things hotter.

The key to this position being intimate and hot, is your ability to make full use of why you are sitting there. That being said; entice your lover into sharing the beauty of having you atop, facing, straddled, opened and exposed. The two of you will love it.

Rear-entry (doggy-style)
The typical doggy-style/rear-entry sex position starts off a few minutes slow and going forward; ends up rough and rugged. There is a time and moment for aggressive sex (which we will touch on in the next chapter Tip 6), but here, it goes a little different when talking about intimate doggy-style sex position. When having intimate sex, in a doggy-styled position, the key to making the moment “intimate” versus “rough” is to allow your lover to bend you over far enough to where they can watch you from the rear while sliding inside you from the head to the very end of the penis.

Allow your lover to play this way, and watch the in and out with the head and the entire penis. That should be the focal point of this technique. Your …

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